We make way for the man who boldly pushes past us – Christian Bovee

Often the only thing between a life of mediocrity and greatness is the amount of confidence one has. Of all qualities that is needed to achieve success, confidence is the most important.

Goethe wrote, “ Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.”

A person without confidence will never attempt anything that is worthwhile. He will stand by and miss out on the fun, opportunities and growth that life has to offer.

When a person is exposed to too much negative experiences, his confidence takes a beating and if he does not pause and put things in proper perspective, fear sets in. This fear, left unchecked will grow the next time a person goes through a negative experience. The more fear a person has the less confidence he will have in himself and lesser the confidence the greater the fear is. This vicious cycle, if not stopped, can drive to self destruction.

Thus, to have greater self confidence, fear must be destroyed.  Dr. David J. Schwartz in his book “The Magic of Thinking Big” proposes a two-step strategy:

  • Isolate fear. Identify exactly what is the fear and write it down. Analyze it and look at it objectively.
  • Take action. Do the necessary. Every fear has some kind remedy.

Tips on building self confidence.

  1. Accept yourself. Know and love yourself.
  1. Believe in yourself. Affirm yourself and flush out negative thoughts.
  1. Acknowledge your accomplishment. Keep a success journal.
  1. Reward yourself. Treat yourself to something nice each time pulling through a challenge.
  1. Speak up.
  1. Visualize your goals.
  1. Do not compare yourself with others. Your life is yours to live.
  1. Always make eye contact.
  1. Have proper perspective of people and things.